Groups and Workshops

“Sometimes the bravest and most important thing
you can do is just show up.”

~Brenѐ Brown

Bold Moves Online Groups for Young Adults, Adults, and Healers with Anxiety

The Bold Moves Group is a great fit for you if you are tired of fear winning and getting the better of you and want interactive support and guidance – you know you need more than just a book, or individual session – you need community and ongoing support. You’re open to something new and willing to put in the effort needed to make things better.

Nobody chooses anxiety. And there is no healthy way to “turn off” anxious thoughts and feelings like a light switch. But you can learn to break free from the shackles of anxiety and fear – and take back your life. The purpose of this group is to help you create a life that inspires you.

The Bold Moves group offers a new approach to your anxiety, fears, and your life. Through participation in this 8-week online psychoeducational group, you’ll find a powerful and tested set of tools and strategies to help you gain freedom from fear, trauma, worry, and all the many manifestations of anxiety and fear.

Based on a revolutionary approach to psychological health and wellness called acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and mindfulness, and best practices from concious relationships, this group process will help you create the conditions for your own genuine happiness and peace of mind.

Your life is calling on you to make that choice, and the skills in this group can help you make it happen if you choose to participate fully. This group will provide accessible, well-researched exercises and practices, as well as accountability, to free you to live from your full aliveness, heart, and potential.  The commitment involves a weekly 2 hour zoom group, daily mindfulness practice (at your own pace), and light reading/journaling. You will also gain access to ongoing text support from peers and your facilitator. 

There are three groups offered, one general group for adults 26 and older, another for young adults 18-25 and lastly a group for healers.  Healers in all professionals, mental health, healthcare, coaching, church leadership, etc are being asked to lead during a time full of uncertainty. The Bold Moves group for Healers will provide you with a safe place to tend to your own needs, and equip you in strengthening your own inner GPS system so you can continue to engage wholeheartedly.  If timing is difficult for a specialty group, all participants are welcome to join the general group.

The first step involves setting up a free discovery call with your facilitator to determine if this is a good fit for you.  While group work on zoom may feel daunting, just know that you are not the only one feeling this way! Why not use this safe, structured community to not only heal, but also gain confidence in engaging in this new way? She will explore with you your goals and any specific needs or requests that you have prior to starting.  You will also have the opportunity to meet with your facilitator again 1-on-1 as part of your program for 30 minutes within the first two weeks to check in on your progress.  We will make sure you have easy access to the support you need as you take on your anxiety in a whole new way.

Transform your relationship with pain and suffering and make 2021 a powerful year, call today to set up your free discovery call with Dr. Estrella (in the video below)!

 Bold Moves Group for Teens: Process Group for Anxiety

Similar to the adult Bold Moves Group above, this group offers teens a practical, highly interactive, and flexible 8-session group using ACT Therapy and Mindful practices.

Teens have their own unique challenges, including difficulty fitting in at school and home, tough academics, figuring out their future, and who they really are in the world. Especially now with remote learning!

This is great for teens that are having a tough time engaging with peers or at school, for example, and yet they want help. This group will provide them with accessible, well-researched exercises and practices, as well as accountability and guidance, to step back into their life in an intentional way.

The first step involves setting up a free discovery call with your facilitator to determine if this is a good fit for you, at which point she will advise of the next group start date. It is typically held on zoom, 2 hours weekly, for 8 weeks.

Next Bold Moves Teen group: TBA

Cost: $75/session, payable prior to group with cash, check or card (pay as you go)

Call our office to register today! (951) 271-0397

“Like the procedure on an airplane, we must put on our own oxygen mask before helping another, or we may not be able to help.”

~Patricia Jennings

Passionate Practitioners: Helping professionals group for work-life balance

Join a supportive group of other passionate practitioners who work in relationship-intense fields and are committed to preventing or finding the joy in burnout by putting their emotional masks on first.

Learn to complete your stress response cycle, gain clarity in your career goals, and fill your self-care cup!

We explore each person’s journey, including strengths, emotional exhaustion, compassion fatigue, and secondary stressors. Together, we learn about self-care strategies form ACT therapy and mindfulness, as well as burnout prevention, receive real-time feedback, and gain support through community.

No matter what service you use, together we will explore your strengths, secondary stressors, and where it is that you want to be, and offer strategies you can apply immediately to create authentic work-life balance.

Through our work together, you’ll learn the skills to manage your stress response, gain clarity in your career goals, and fill your self-care cup!

As an open group, you can begin at any time and will receive personalized direction to create work-life balance.

Next group: TBA

Cost: $75/session, payable prior to group with cash, check or card

Call our office to register today! (951) 271-0397

nullEvoke Excellence Consultations

We offer the private, public, and not-for-profit sector organizational well-being checks, team-building skills, and leadership trainings grounded in a strengths-based, experiential approach.

We focus on helping teams achieve transparency and clarity of their vision in order to help build trust, safety, and enhanced results. We use a combined background of management in the banking, public, and mental health program sectors to provide quality service for our clients.

Each program is customized for the client to meet the dynamics of the group as well as produce the client’s desired outcomes. Contact our office if interested. 

“Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts.
It is about one life influencing another.”

~John C. Maxwell

Sweet Release Group: Support for Women Who Experience Pain with Intercourse

No matter how much you want to connect with your partner, if you have pain during sex, or dyspareunia, it can be devastating. Whether it’s once in a while or every time, it can be tough to navigate this with your partner.

It can feel really lonely, and you may not always know where to go for help. Research helps us today to look at this from more than just a physical lens. Painful intercourse is also an emotional struggle and can be helped with education, counseling, as well as physical therapy or medical interventions.

You don’t have to go it alone or soldier on anymore. Join Dr. Estrella, an LMFT with extensive training in sex therapy, for an eight-week group designed to give women a safe place to share their experience, learn from one another, and discuss options for overcoming the pain to feel the sweet release of pain-free sex.

Open to women of any sexual orientation, single or in relationship.

Call today to find out more about this group, which will open in March 2020.

Women’s Circle of Intimacy

Join other women in an eight-week facilitated discussion and support group for women wanting to explore their sexual needs and desires.

Whether you experience low desire, want it all the time, or something in between, together you will share about your sexual identity, including any challenges you may be dealing with sexually.

We will use a combination of journaling, meditations, dyad, and group activities while walking through Dr. Nygoski’s book Come as You Are. You will have the chance to share your own story, as well as learn from and gain support from other women.

Imagine the chance to ask questions that you’d normally blush about or maybe discuss things you always wanted to try yet didn’t know who to ask.

If sex isn’t easy for you or you find yourself pushing off your partner’s advances, come learn why this may be and strategies to help you ask for what would help foster a context where you might feel more open.

You will be encouraged to set an intention or goal that you would be happy and inspired to create by the end of the eight weeks.

This group fills up fast, so be sure to reach out today if you would like to take on redefining the way you relate sexually in 2020!

Open to women of any sexual orientation, single or in relationship.

Call today to find out more about this group.

“You always gain by giving love.”

~Reese Witherspoon

Interested in hosting or attending a couples retreat?

Interested in clarifying or re-defining your joint vision for your relationship,or perhaps finally establishing a vision together?

Is it time to improve your relationship and learn how to communicate in new ways that promote better understanding and closeness?

Would you like to feel more accepted by your partner and have less conflict in your relationship?

Would you like to feel like your partner is more accessible, responsive and engaged with you?

Dr. Estrella offers a variety of workshops throughout the year to help couples clarify vision and affirm strengths for your relationship, including intimacy.

Come get unstuck from repeating patterns of arguing or silent distancing that cause frustration and pain, and make sense of the strong emotions and needs that can surprise both of you in the relationship.

Begin the process of repairing relationship injuries, even old ones, and understand how to move forward and forgive. 

Together, we will increase feelings of trust and intimacy, playfulness, and fun. Learn how to take the great conversations you start at the workshop and keep them going at home!

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn to let go.
Release the hurt, Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang onto the past
is holding you back from a new life.
What is it that you would let go of today?”

~Mary Manin Morrissey

 “Hold Me Tight” Workshop

Learn how the Hold Me Tight® program can help you to create deeper connection and closeness with your partner. We can help you in this couples workshop to uncover the worst culprit that pulls couples apart!

Come join other couples in learning how you two can support one another in creating a stronger, more secure relationship and create opportunities to live life more fully and with greater ease. Ideal for partners at any stage – dating, committed, or married – who want to strengthen their relationship.

Hold Me Tight® is a relationship education and enhancement program for clarifying your vision together and nurturing emotional closeness with your partner. This workshop is based on the international best-selling book “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Dr. Sue Johnson. The educational and experiential workshop introduces core concepts of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, heralded as one of the most effective couples therapies to date.

Dates to be announced

“How We Love” Workshop

The How We Love group is designed to help you understand your attachment or “love” style in your marriage or dating relationship.  Through a faith-based and attachment lens, we will explore and discover what went wrong in your previous or current relationship so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes.

We all learned love lessons from our families, and these inform how we deal with our adult romantic partner when we are not getting our needs met or are distressed. By becoming aware of the ways you may be acting out your past wounds, you will gain the awareness and coaching needed to break the cycle and make room for intimacy to blossom.

This workshop is built around DVD footage, discussion, and skill building developed by Kay and Milan Yerkovich and based on their best-selling book, How We Love: Discover your love style, enhance your marriage. From the beginning, we will show you how to bring the Comfort circle to life. This is a unique tool designed to help couples create resolution and interrupt the old dance that only tore them apart.

Next How We Love Retreat: TBA

Cost: $320 (includes workshop, lodging, food, and book)

Enroll online at

Passion Alive Group: Couples group designed to enhance intimacy

You’re so tired of the turn your relationship has taken. Once full of fun and friendship, it’s now just monotony, repetitive fights, and a lack of connection. Even your sex life is suffering – awkward, infrequent, at times shameful.

You still care deeply for your partner, but you miss feeling like a team. This can’t be all there is! Is this really as good as it’s going to get? You desperately need help to spark and revive a lasting healthy, emotional, and sexual connection.

Join other couples in an ongoing group designed to help you find your way back to each other, only this time in a responsible, authentic, and engaged way.

Using a combination of attachment, contextual, and dual control theories, Dr. Estrella leads an experiential group for couples that are wanting to invest in their partnership, no matter what stage in the game.

If you are newlywed and struggling to create a common vision, great. If you’ve just had your first child and can’t seem to find time for each other, great. If you just sent your last kid off to college and aren’t sure how to connect, let alone play with each other, great.

The program is designed to be completed within 12 sessions. 90 days to transform your marriage!

As an open group, you will walk with each other through a process designed to work at your own pace.

Together, you will uncover the not-so-great dance or cycle that keeps knocking you two apart. You will start to see your impact on your partner, as well as learn what it is that they are really needing from you. You will be encouraged to explore your own unmet needs and learn how to have a needs conversation that actually ends in win-win.

You will be given resources to enhance not only your emotional resources, but also your sexual connection. Sex is a vibrant source of creative connection and worth for men and women. Learn how you have been approaching sex, dismantle whatever beliefs haven’t been serving, and then construct a joint vision for a sex life that fulfills both of your needs.

Make 2021 the year you both step up and out onto the skinny branches for one another. Decide to take a stand for your partnership and then come clarify what that is together with the support of Dr. Estrella, a gifted group facilitator crazy about couples growing closer.

Start date: TBA

Call today to set up a discovery call to learn more about how this group could support you and your partner to love in ways neither could have imagined!

Calling in “The One” Online Group Coaching

Join our online group led by Dr. Julie Estrella, relationship and love coach, designed to walk you through an 8-week process to help you uncover the ways you are unconsciously getting in your own way and instead turn on that homing beacon for fulfilling love.

Using the curriculum of Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, licensed psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Calling in “The One,” together we will help you identify your blocks and barriers to love, as well as provide you a safe environment to begin creating a new vision for love and how you would get to be to create that in your life.

Discover unresolved baggage and stories that may be covertly sabotaging your chances for love.

Till the Soil of Your Heart Thoroughly

You will have access to a daily lesson, corresponding practice, mediation, and journaling exercises that will help you bring that lesson to life. With the support of others committed to making bold moves in their lives, you will clarify your life’s purpose, a life worth living, and how to shift from a “me” to “we” mindset.

What’s Included in the Group Coaching?

The group coaching will meet online weekly for 8 sessions and include a variety of additional useful resources that will be made available through the group’s online Facebook group.

The cost does not include the cost of the book, Calling in “The One,” by Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Meet Your Coach

You will be given support to walk you through this trusted process by a coach who spent just over a decade striking out in love before she did similar work.

I’m Julie – Love enthusiast and committed partner with you in this journey!

In my late 20s, I attended a leadership workshop that I thought was supposed to help me be a better leader in my work and instead found myself bawling my eyes out the first night when the exercise called for sharing our vision for our future.

My Story: I’m Too Much

All I could think about was how much I wanted to be married. But also how jaded I was about marriage and my ability to find a man who could handle my “strong personality,” as one male friend teased me.

The work didn’t matter, not really; I was on track for managing my own department. Instead, what became so clear was how scared I was to trust men and how marriage seemed like a trap for women who dared to dream – all compliments of my early love lessons.

I Chose to Trust and My Blindfolds Fell Away

In that workshop, I woke up to the profound impact these old stories were having in my life and how amazing it can be when I step out on the skinny branches and risk.

I met men who knocked the old stories off the table and helped me start to make space for trustworthy, powerful, confident men to start showing up.

Be a Heat-Seeking Missile for Anything That Scares You

From there I decided to pursue any sort of work that would support me in creating an empowered view of men and myself in partnership with them – in my family, at work, and romantically. I discovered communities like Alison Armstrong’s PAX workshops, dedicated to approaching relationships from a responsible conversation or mindset, as we like to say these days.

For me, a responsible mindset means that I am aware I am creating my entire reality in how I choose to respond to life in any given moment.

In waking up to the stories that I am operating by, being willing to embrace and deconstruct them, I then created the space to create a new story – one that empowered and evoked me to take action.

Becoming Ms. Right

I jumped wholeheartedly into becoming the woman I thought could only exist once she found her true love. I focused on treating everyone in the way I wanted to be in relationship – loving, trusting, open, and authentic.

I went to a LOT of workshops, dated a ton, and explored online dating, too.

Sergio Estrella, Dr. Estrella’s husband

Who Is This Guy???

All in all, it took me about three years before I met my incredible husband. We met at one of those original leadership workshops – and I swear, it was like a tractor beam caught me… I had never experienced anything like it.

The goodness of fit was clear to me within two dates, and we set out to create a life we both feel fulfilled by. I went back to school to become a Licensed marriage and family therapist with a Ph.D. and focus on working with couples and intimacy.

Relationship & Love Coaching

Over nine years later, we are not only deeper in love than ever before, we are also embarking on giving the type of relationship coaching we wish we had access to years ago together!

Whether you want to attract a soul mate or deepen the intimate connection between you, we now offer relationship coaching through Schaepper Psychiatry.

Calling in “The One” Group

I am not a fan of reinventing the wheel; and when a friend recommended the Calling in “The One” book by Katherine Woodward Thomas, I was ecstatic! I wish I would have had my hands on this a decade ago when I went through my own heart-wrenching transformation. Her process is powerful and effective.

As humans we tend to do better in community when creating change, for support and accountability. You can count on me to set a context for your group experience that is warm, inviting, and provides the safety needed to explore wherever you need to go through your process.

I will be available via email and on the FB group outside of the group time, and you are always welcome to set up an individual coaching appointment if needed.

What If I’m Not Sure I’m Ready for a Relationship?

Sometimes people have let me know that they aren’t feeling ready to attract a relationship. You may be struggling with anxiety about your future or have just exited a messy divorce – and yet something in this post resonated with you.

Somehow you intuitively sense that there are crossed wires inside, and you’d really love support clearing house, tiling the soil of your heart so to speak, to experience a new way of relating to yourself – with loving kindness.

Whether or not you are “ready” for a relationship, we encourage you to use this time to prepare your heart to be able to attract and then recognize a powerful partner. Through the powerful support of a group, you will have a home base to work through your stuff and to receive feedback about all that makes you gloriously you.

You will be encouraged to make time to carve out time to create a life that inspires you, one where you live and love boldly. If not now, when?

Take Action for a Healthy, Passionate Relationship Today

And if you are feeling lit up with the possibility of creating a relationship that is mutually fulfilling, then let’s take this on together!

Call (951) 271-0397 today to set up a free phone consultation to see if this would be a good fit for you.